Emotional and Decision Support

Core Messages

• Acknowledge feelings first. Emotions are normal and should be named before facts are discussed.
• Separate values from logistics. Use a decision worksheet to separate “what matters” from “what’s feasible.”
• Protect caregiver wellbeing. Regular respite and clear role assignments reduce burnout.

Conflict-Calming Scripts

• When guilt arises: “I hear that you feel guilty. That shows how much you care. Let’s list options and see which one honors your values and is realistic.”
• When someone resists insurance: “I understand this feels unnecessary now. Buying insurance is about keeping options open if needs change.”

Decision Worksheet

• Values: Top three things that matter (independence, safety, legacy).
• Facts: Current assets, policies, and health status.
• Options: Top three funding or care options and the tradeoffs.
• Decision: Chosen option and next three action steps.

Caregiver Self-Care Checklist

• Schedule one predictable break per month.
• Join a peer support group or online forum.
• Keep a short daily log of wins and challenges to share with family.